because in many cases they 'leave something in her" which absorbs the energy of others in their favour,which is one of the reasons why our musicians can have the strongest of beefs over a woman who is 13th to one 25 to the other but they fear an interaction between their powers which can backfire on their careers and they tend to consider it as a spiritual attack,then there is cases where they accept on purpose
there is for example in the "big 4" of "young rumba artists" one of them who still does not figure out that he slept a sidekick of another as a way of controlling him,and another of the top 4 guys is aware of it and tried to warn indirectly "zala mayele bazo sala yo jeu"